Surviving Psychological Trauma

Whoa….ummm alright….I’m taking a deep breath, hoping to find the right words. Fingers crossed I don’t sound like a bitter nasty, negative person. Writing is like therapy to me…and lord knows I need some right now. I have a lot I need to release and let it go. If you are going through something similar, I hope my journey helps you in some way.

First, thank you for visiting my blog, Fitness Focused Momma. My blog didn't always look like this. It was your basic run of the mill blog, no bells and whistles. In fact when I started two years ago, I thought a few people would read it, find a recipe and share it. But it’s time to evolve. It’s time to grow and move forward!! I am taking this section, and making it more than just eating healthy and exercising. This section – is dedicated to mental health. Mentally getting yourself stronger. Breaking free of what is sucking your soul dry, loving yourself unconditional and with no apologies, and becoming the strong, fierce, independent, beautiful loving person you were destined to be!!

Hearing the words Domestic Violence you automatically think someone is physically beating someone else. However Emotional and Mental abuse is in fact a form of Domestic Violence. You may not be physically getting hit, but your psychological health takes a beating every day. You have scars that no one can see by looking at you. You feel trapped inside yourself, you don’t realize what’s happening until you are far into that relationship and then you are wondering daily if you are losing your mind, what you did wrong to bring this on yourself, and what you can do to fix it. Emotional and Mental – or Psychological Abuse is truly a serious form of abuse.

Nothing is more damaging to your confidence and self-esteem than being in an emotionally abusive relationship. Unlike physical abuse which rears its ugly head in dramatic outbursts, emotional abuse can be more insidious and elusive.

The victim of the abuse quite often doesn’t see the mistreatment as abusive. They develop coping mechanisms of denial and minimizing in order to deal with the stress. Sound familiar? It does to me. I did that for 10 years. Lived in the land of denial, made excuses & rationalized the behavior, hide the destruction of my soul from everyone I could – just to make sure the image of the family I had, looked as good on the outside, the way I longed for it to be in real life. But the effects of long-term emotional abuse can cause severe emotional trauma in the victim, including depression, anxiety, and post-traumatic stress disorder.

My vision is to have this experience, journaling my thoughts, what I have experienced, and ways you can get help if you are suffering, or extend help to others, is to be therapeutic. To shed light on different forms of abusive that do not get a lot of attention, or just get the attention of people saying “just get over it”, “you didn’t get hit”, “it’s not that serious”. The more we educate ourselves, our children, and others, the more we TALK about it, that these forms of abuse can leave such psychological damage on the victims, that this damage can spill out into family, friends, and work – the more everyone becomes AWARE and hopefully we can put an END to ALL TYPES OF VIOLENCE!

Feel free to explore the site, check out the clean recipes, transformations, accountability and help groups I offer, and my story – of being a Survivor of Psychological Abuse. And the most important step, please share my story. I truly believe words have the power to heal.